HAPPY YULETIDE

HAPPY YULETIDE

HAPPY YULETIDE TO ALL CHILDLESS WOMEN IN THE WORLD 
(CHILDLESS NOT BY CHOICE BUT BY CIRCUMSTANCE)
 

This is a season of joy, happiness, connections, and re-connections.
A season to laugh and make merry with old and new friends and families. 
A season to add new items like, clothing, shoes, utensils and much more to our collections.
Yuletide is tied to Newness.
 

This season has ushered in a special kind of newness to me, so, I decided to share with you all, and especially to my tribe, the childless community. 
 

Let’s make this Yuletide, one to stop mourning over the loss of that child we never had. I told myself not to spend my energy fantasizing over what may never be, but to celebrate what is, and exhibit all my trophies to encourage, empower and show others the right way. 
You may be lonely at this time, your thought may be, oh, it’s Christmas again and I don’t have any child to take shopping, none to cook nice meal with, and none to watch my favourite Christmas movies with. Oh, it is quite lonely here. 
It is OK to feel that way, you are allowed to pour out your emotions, it’s OK to talk to yourself, all by yourself. 
 

But to me it’s more OK to look outside self this season. It’s more OK to harness the LOVE and SUPPORT that are beckoning from outside of self.
It is more OK to step out of your mourning mood and embrace freedom.
it’s more OK to welcome the season of New Birth and see it as a new beginning for you in many other areas of your purposeful life. 
From this very Yuletide forward, embrace life, embrace purpose far beyond motherhood. 
Stand up and say No to STIGMA and SHAME, associated with childlessness. Embrace self-worth.
 

To you, childless African mama, I celebrate you this season and I celebrate this season with you. I know how tough it is to face social pressure, and humiliation due to childlessness. When I say I know how you feel, believe me because, I am in that same wagon of Emotional Roller Coaster with you. 
Get up and embrace your strength, resilience and beauty regardless of parental status. 
I urge you to rediscover your passion, personal fulfilment and God’s Love as a measure of your worth.
 

Seek to nurture the relationships you have with loved ones and make a positive impact in your community at large. 
 

Commit to put smile on someone’s face. Endeavour to look far beyond self and all the “wants” and look for another childless individual in your neighbourhood whom you can encourage, empower and share your peculiarities with, serve and transform. Impact one person at a time this season.
 

THESE ARE THE WORDS I TOLD MYSELF, FROM THIS YULETIDE MOVING FORWARD:
Shake off that guilt, self-doubt, despair, fear, draining anticipation, loneliness, hate, anger, self-pity and self-stabbing.
 

Speak some kind words to yourself, you have come a long way with success and acclaim. You have many medals and trophies to your name. Share these comforting words, which by no means, are empty, with someone out there who is eagerly waiting for your soothing words to assure him/her that they are not alone. 
 

Transform all these emotions into a Gold Mine.
Get up and celebrate the many milestones you’ve attained. 
Get up and lift your Trophies and stand to be cheered!!!
 

Come, let’s start Documenting, let’s put pen to paper, let’s tell our stories just the way they happened. 
 

Let’s give life to our journey with all it’s authenticity to educate posterity. 
What you don’t want to do is, leave this Gold Mine in the hands of people who do not know or understand the uniqueness of every joy or pain and what each drop of tear means to you.
 

YOUR EXPERIENCE IS YOUR GOLD MINE. 
YOUR VOICE IS YOUR PERSONALITY.
 

Riding on this Wagon with you is,
Lilian.
 

P.S.
If you could relate with this missive in its context, please join: Life Beyond Motherhood Facebook Group. 
#lifebeyondmotherhood #dignityofwomanhood #childlesswomen #iwriteafrica.com
 

Hello, I am Lilian Chudey Pride. Good to welcome you to my online world. I am a Writer, Teacher, Encourager, Author of Life Beyond Motherhood, Dignity of Womanhood and Publisher, iwriteafrica.com online Magazine. I love Africa so much and I derive joy in telling the world about her beauty and strength. I share the challenges of the childless African community, providing Support, Encouragement and Empowerment. While guiding the childless African woman to trust God, I help her to understand her peculiarity, grieve properly, heal and embrace purpose. See my book: Life Beyond Motherhood on Amazon. Welcome to Africa.
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Lilian Chudey Pride
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